Oftentimes, lifes vagaries present before one a spate of experiences which as if challenge the roots of our existential paradigm. In other words we, perchance seem to encounter seemingly impossible circumstances and individuals, who yank the carpet from underneath our feet, before one can mutter bally-ho, compelling us to re fashion our mental make-up.
Advice forthcoming is usually philosophical, even from most unexpected quarters, spoken with a benign saintly air, to anyone within hearing (reading) distance, ‘forgive, move on..think of your own karma and relax’..Needless to add that often these sermons die an exceedingly swift death when the shoe is on the other foot..then it gets to be a tale of retribution, revenge, egotistical utterings, often punctuated with ungainly profanities and soon the cat is out of the bag..Ah-Ah, easy to recommend but exceedingly difficult to practise. Preach only what is obviously/apparently personally vouched for…most followed mantra..confessedly.
Philosophising should ideally be preceded by egolessness, a long drawn evolutionary process, which none can boast of..atleast not among ones everyday acquaintances, in the virtual world or the real, for that matter. Its prudent to be a teacher to yourself, in complete awareness of your own shortcomings before one can attempt to preach..it sounds hollow and fake..a little like papier mache..beautifully carved but sans endurability.
There has been occasion recently to witness a rather sorry tale of betrayal, which reminded one of the fact that sometimes its better to be cynical, rather than a trusting fool. Whilst typing this however, despite the sordid experience, the desire to be yourself and be of your ‘own grain’, no matter the irascibility of another, comes to the fore almost simultaneously..
Some, like me and hubby are never willing to learn..Give us a ‘kahaani’ with feeling and soon, short of sobbing uncontrollably, will be hugging, consoling, willing to be of help, almost immediately. ..even total strangers…also those one meets on the net! Excuse: The story of Paramhansa Ramakrishna.
Paramhansa, along with a disciple, was sitting on the river bed..in serenity and peace, when a scorpion emerged from the waters and stung him on the foot. The saint softly lifted the scorpion and put him back in the water. After a while, the scorpion emerged again and repeated the act. Swam ji repeated his rescue act. When this had happened for the third and fourth time, the disciple asked of him, summoning his courage, as to why was he rescuing him, only to be stung again. Paramhansa in his inimitable style replied ” Let him follow his nature.. I will follow mine”
I love the story and happily soothe my frayed nerves with the comfort of its lesson everytime life has thrown up a ‘scorpion’..But no boasting here. Its tough ..the need to confront/ expose, or at least embark on a verbal duel is often overpowering, especially when its been a rather crassy example of unprovoked shoddy behaviour, spoken or written, or a blatant example of ‘use and discard’..rather shamelessly .It kinda makes you feel like a naive, green behind the ears, ..a fool…( Names could have been provided but that according to me is the Ultimate in crassiness and cheapness.. freedom of speech is not Freedom to malign..it exposes a rather low level of self esteem and self respect, apart from a skewed sense of ethics) A questioning of a common enough occurence and a resolution of incumbent behaviour, is the purpose of the post.
So therefore..is it important to be clever, or instead.. wise to be simple?
Would it have been beneficial had the event been nipped in the bud and the ‘scorpion’ been kept a mile away? Or is it that one is supposed to accept the experience as another learning lesson, anoint yourself with soothing balm, contentedly ready for the next .. never willing to render your trust in people, faith in the in inherent goodness, null and void? Are you therefore expected to be ‘You’..despite the other being ..’Whoever’?
Present mood..sullen to begin with. Post the post.. Better ..
Hmm.. So was this the purpose, in the first place? Learning and sharing..A question surrrendered to the Universe..to be answered in its own way, by whoever it connects with.. an energy resounding, resonating with another like minded..a spark, followed by a rekindling ..in a never ending process.