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June 18, 2007

Shweta Tiwari Victim Of Domestic Violence (Updated)

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A picture taken not too long ago ..Deceptive?

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Kaveetaa Kaul

Shweta Tiwari a popular actress of television soaps seems to be in doldrums of the domestic kind. As reported by leading national T.V. channels and the media, Shweta Tiwari has been going through incidents of physical abuse at the hands of her husband Raja Chowdhry.

While the incidence of violence fails to evince any element of surprise, yet, that it is prevalent in obviously well adjusted couples, or as portrayed, does leave one questioning its ubiquitousness. This pair had been a favourite in the recently concluded ‘Nach Baliye’ a dance competition involving celebrities and all appeared hunky-dory. I guess ‘appeared’ is the operative word here…goes to vindicate the oft repeated phrase ‘ Appearances are often deceptive’.

I must confess, I am not an avid watcher of television serials. I had no idea as to the extent of her popularity except, when on hunting for her snaps, found sites devoted to her aplenty and also some hearsay. Especially when a friend called up hysterical , mumbling about ‘Prerna filing a police complaint against her husband’! And I went ‘ Who is Prerna?’ She fumed at my ignorance then resignedly gave up and filled me in on the details. Apparently ‘ Prerna’ is the moniker she goes by in her serial ‘ Kasauti Zindagi Ki”, a must watch for most households in India and thus ‘Prerna’ she is for our ‘sob crazy soap fans’!!

I had been contemplating on writing a post on D.V. (domestic violence) for some time now. The thought itself was highly disturbing so kept delaying it, mentally citing one excuse or another. I guess , if we believe that we are plain doers, while the strings are held by the Supreme Puppeteer, then this was the catalyst that one was awaiting.

Talking of Puppeteers, while one can with deference confer the Almighty with the said tag, what seems obvious that the men in our lives somehow have anointed themselves with the rights and privileges of one as well. They pull at strings, lift and drop, caress and abuse, swing around in a merry dance of violence, at will.

One wishes somebody would tap them on the shoulder, lightly, reminding them that they are as much puppets- on- a- string as us women, where fate, destiny and sheer level of being is concerned.

Adopting an impartial stance, lets admit that generalisations are odious. Most men attempt to keep a semblance of propriety these days. Lets not get into the causes. .that is material for another post. However, few swallows dont a summer make! The case of dark goings on in the hidden precincts of the bedroom are getting to be almost a ‘ghar ghar Ki kahani’ ( story of every household- another popular T.V. serial).

Is Wedlock A Padlock?

Is it this sense of having got the woman ‘all for himself’, imprisoned in the bonds of marriage therefore morph the husband from Jekyll to Hyde? Does she then for him degenerate into a pin cushion for venting his frustrations that arise out of inadequacies on the career/ personal/sexual/front? Most importantly is he incapable of assimilating the success of his wife, therefore in turn explodes on her with violence , abuse both physical and emotional as if to break her spirit and calm his envious one in retributive measure? The answers seem affirmative on all counts.

Shweta Tiwaris case is like a text book reference point of a man whose ‘Abhimaan’ (ego) has taken a severe beating since his career has taken one as well. .. much like the brilliant film by the same name starring Big B in the role of a lifetime. Raja Chowdhry’s too (rumored to be unemployed?) is simply a case of immature emotional quotient, a surge of basic traits which have de-humanised the man, overwhelming him to the extent that the boundaries between right and wrong have blurred his better sense. He is angry and he wishes to express that to his wife and on his wife at the crudest possible level ( On television, dressed in a vest, mouthing profanities at the Press, behaving delinquently, presented quite an insight to the dismal mental state of Raja) A component from mans pre-historic times, therefore impossible to forego.

Such marriages, where the relationship has lost its moorings, need counselling.. definitely not the police stations and media! !That Shweta has suffered, for the past many years and has tried to keep the sordid details confined to the stillness of her mind is clear. In such conditions a breaking down, especially when Raja threatened to take away the daughter, the sole reason why she might have kept the marriage going, must have been the final straw that broke the camels back.

But what a sorry fiasco the media has turned it into.. a circus where in place of animals there is a couple floundering to keep their life afloat in tempestuous times, a family going to pieces, a daughter marked for life by her peers, fed to the audience and moolah raked in!! Tragic..tragic.

Shweta as most women should , ought to have in a clear headed, practical, dispassionate assessment decided on a fitting course of action.. Filing a police complaint amounted to zilch and instead brought the circumstances into the drawing rooms of families, busy with their evening meal and looking on, impervious to her plight or future. What did she gain? Was there nobody in both families who could have played mediator and made the husband see sense? This is often the bane of nuclear set ups today. Elders have moved out, as has wisdom!!

It would be ideal if the two decide to patch their differences. Bearing the humiliation of public scrutiny will perhaps take its toll. But in the event that maturity takes on the reins and a sense of restraint and calm prevails on both sides, who knows.. the family might get to be one again.

Is marriage under siege? Is it really so difficult for two people to carve a harmonious life together? Where have we gone wrong? How do we set it right?

The point is just as we have to learn how to make love we ought to learn how to battle in marriage. It should bring forth a positive outcome. Marriage is our last chance to grow up!

In todays troubled times, where transition is apparent in the equational balance between man and woman, it is paramount the couples who decide to take the plunge into marriage, take help and guidance as to the measures to be adopted in creating harmony and peace. There is not enough attention being given to pre-marital guidance, which is the crux of the breaking down in communication so prevalent today. It seems a miracle today if two people continue to stay together.. Inform the Vatican?

Keeping a marriage and its vows alive is a lifetime exercise. There are no magic pills and remedies save inculcation of words like patience, tolerance, sharing, egolessness, harmony and most of all Love...even if it involves falling in Love with the same man/woman over and over again!!

We have to decisively live these words.. or witness the death of the institution.

I first learned the concepts of non-violence in my marriage…Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi

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Update 2nd July’07: Errant husband Raja Chowdhary getting more frustrated as the days progress and Shweta stoically refuses to bow to pressures from him. Perhaps he pushed his luck too far this time. She is bent on being reclusive while he is bent on proving his immaturity in dealing with the problem over and over again.

Update 22nd June’07 : Raja Chowdhry lamenting over a broken home, now puts the blame on all n sundry, including Balaji crew for supporting Shweta, as also grieving over the fact that she is Shweta Tiwari and Not Shweta Chowdhry..rather late in the day no? This article is a must read.. goes on to give a peek into his manner of thinking and into what we were discussing a few days earlier, the extent to which we were right in averring that a man with a more successful wife = disgruntled hubby and eventually trouble.

Update 20th June ’07 : sigh.. The inevitable has happened Shweta Tiwari is contemplating divorce. Advised by family and friends, Shweta is now probably facing the crisis of her life. Does she forgive and forget in the hope and promise of a better and more stable future or does she forget the past and move on, this time with a daughter and memories! Why is life such a demanding journey? Why cannot people love and accept each other just as how it ought to be? Why cannot a couple treasure and nurture each other, revel in each others success and share the burdens of life with a calm? Is it really so difficult to include one soul in your life giving unconditionally and receiving peace in return?

Is it Utopian to imagine a Universe ‘jahaan gham bhi na ho, aansoo bhi na ho, bas pyaar hi pyaar palle’?

Update 18th August 2008: Raja Chaudhary part of BIG BOSS 2

Update 10th Jan 2011: Shweta Tiwari WINS BIGG BOSS 4 !! Nemesis strikes and how!!

The first ever female contestant to winn Bigg Boss!! She finally hit the jackpot, evidently ending any financial turmoil she might have had to face as a consequence of her impending divorce. The ways of the Almighty are strange and just. A lesson to all never to give up on HIM and yourself. Who knows what looms large in your destiny, at the turn of the next corner. In all fairnness, she did conduct herself with restraint and poise in comparative terms to the other contestants. Although I personally feel Sameer Soni and Ashmit came across as more or less likable as well.

But if the voting pattern is all there is to it and it is credible then well she seems to have mass appeal.!!

Good luck to her and her future karma. Hope she lives life in gratitude and with compassion.

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  1. I must say well written Kaveetaa! Though being a man I feel strange admitting that . Yes we cannot shy away from the fact that violence is there. Ego playing a part in this particular case is admittedly a factor. I have noticed that in couples where both are profitably occupied, such incidents may be rare. although friction does exist but on different fronts..Both parties have to adopt a peace loving policy.
    thanks and regards

    Comment by dilip — June 18, 2007 @ 3:55 pm | Reply

  2. All love marriages today are ending up in disaster. Looks like I will never ever get married..its frightening. tomorrow the guy can change into something else only!!

    Why did she not leave him the first time he assaulted her?I have a friend who is going thru the same shit. her constant dialogue is ‘he will change now.. ab woh aisa nahin karega’.And its been going on for years. Nothing has changed..only she has gone older and fatter and has two kids. So even more stuck.

    Comment by Neha — June 18, 2007 @ 6:34 pm | Reply

  3. Kav:

    A good article. Domestic Violence is wrong. I am sad for this lady .

    Nonetheless, to look at this curse simply in terms of gender is invalid (not that I am suggesting that this thread is doing that). The world has gone far beyond that. A lot of men (as studies show) also get physically beaten by their wives (some beaten black and blue).

    Additionally today violence itself is being redefined. “Verbal” & “Emotional” violence are also being given importance.

    I personally am of the opinion that men and women are equal, just as all races are equal in their ability to do evil or wrong. We become unequal with our good deeds. We have different capacity to do good deeds, some more and some none. Circumstances play a major role. Education and people’s skill come into play also. Perhaps had this guy not been jobless, Perhaps if this lady had better skills to defuse her husband’s pent up emotion on account of his failure. Things might have been different.

    The problem is divorce these days (I am talking as if I am some old guy) has become a relatively easy option. The problem is that patience, tolerance, compassion, faith, trust etc have disappeared. The changing world has put us in such a spin that even gender roles have become muddied. Men are behaving like women, women are behaving like men. Hence no one knows how to address any given situation. No one knows what is correct and what is wrong. In this chaotic world, when by chance we come across a novel like Jhumpa Lahiri’s “Namesake” it helps to put some issues in perspective. It reminds us that preservation of the family unit should triumph mundane victories. Some day the men and women collectively and individually will have their “Kalinga”, a victory that will make them question the price they have paid. Till done men will beat women and women will beat men and both will point fingers at each other and call each other names.

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 18, 2007 @ 10:04 pm | Reply

  4. Marriage is the last chance to grow up…. i swear what a learning in growing up one gets..especially for the guy… patience ,tolerance …..qualities i never thought existed in me suddenly gushing out in abundence… A male ego takes a long time to accept the fact that the female coutnerpart is far better than him .

    As for love marriages being broken up with increasing frequency read Scot Peck’s ‘Road Less Travelled” where he says , Love is not a emotion but a verb … Love as a verb is what sustains a marriage , put the effort to love the other person . Love-the feeling will definitely end within 2-6 months of a love marriage.

    Neha- Marraige is not so baad …. the problem is only the the bad happenings get reported .The good things just get ignored or we take things for granted . As Shakespeare said ‘ the good that men do get interred with and the bad remain’. be +ve

    Comment by Manoj — June 19, 2007 @ 9:25 am | Reply

  5. kudos Kaveeta ! Good article.It is a myth ” only rural women are subjected to domestic violence” .It happens all over the world , even the rich and famous , our bollywood top actresses are subjected to this .Women should speak out instead of weeping in the closed doors .Certainly “PROVOKED” enough!Some men complain… they are also subjected to DV , but its negligible .whatever it is , the law must be implemented strictly.

    Comment by Laxmi — June 19, 2007 @ 10:46 am | Reply

  6. yes , its true , even the top heroines shy away from speaking …. in the public , i read this interview of Ash sometime back and thought this is relevant in this context :
    http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/film/bollywood/article1574857.ece?token=null&offset=12 , this is on provoked and also on her personal experience.

    Comment by Anonymous — June 19, 2007 @ 6:36 pm | Reply

  7. Hi Dilip,

    Thanks..Yes there may be a thousand reasons for a break-up, but we have to endeavour to discover that one which will help keep it going.

    Hi Neha,

    Hope is all that we have and she is not wrong in presuming that things will eventually work out.

    But what we have to remember is that only an insane person will keep doing the same things and expect a different result each time! There will have to be a sea change in attitudinal perceptions.. both his and hers.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 20, 2007 @ 1:30 pm | Reply

  8. Hi Shaan,

    Ofcourse gender inequalities is not the core of this post. This incident served as a catalyst for the debate and was therefore quoted. Had there been with the male as victim, concern would have been equally passionate from my side. However, we have to bear in mind Shaan that percentages play a role. People die all over the world due to a myriad factors. But if .000001 die of the supercallifragilisticespiallidocious ( It is an infection I think 🙂 ) but if 20% are dying of Aids , our focus will naturaaly turn towards the greater number.

    Yes divorce being an option had diluted the Commitment factor in a marriage. Couples even after being married sub consciously try and find reasons to live together..thats ironic isnt it? Marriage is meant for keeps.. and one would have thought that doubts on that score would not be given any attention, except in unusually trying circumstances. But the reverse is true.

    As for role reversal..its a phenomenon that was bound to occur.

    The problem as I see it, is that women dont want to be, think, behave like their mothers, while men want their women to be, think, behave like their mothers!!

    Change of expectations and openness in communication therefore is an absolute must. I daresay mothers on both sides play a vital role in re defining importance of marital adjustments in categorical terms.

    There are no winners in this battle..But when things get out of hand neither is willing to give in to score that ‘make’ point avoiding the ‘break ‘ point. Circumstances are rarely conducive to make a marriage work. One has to laboriously rise to the call. We are known by our relationships..our mettle and our tenor. Marriage, the most challenging bastion ever!!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 20, 2007 @ 1:50 pm | Reply

  9. Hi Manoj,

    You come across as a highly evolved male especially since you believe that ‘A male ego takes a long time to accept the fact that the female coutnerpart is far better than him .” ..:) Well done!

    Kidding. This is not about women or men being better than the other , more about each getting the best out of each other.

    I think a marriage which aspires to bring forth the innate talent/ qualities of a spouse is one which can be considered successful . As you have said, it has brought out patience and tolerance in an abundance you never imagine existed.. bravo!! That was the point I was trying to make.

    And whoever said the path to love was strewn with roses was a liar.. there are thorns and more thorns. One either learns to patiently extract each prickly one or develop leather soles which can crush them all underneath, paving the path meant to be trodden on.

    And Yes I agree totally ..Love , like happiness is a verb!! More than love which is so nebulous and gets even more so with the passage of time, it is Respect and inner caring for each other that will result in a meaningful relationship. Love and passion are as whimsical as the sands of time.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 20, 2007 @ 2:01 pm | Reply

  10. Hi Laxmi,

    You said it.. It is a myth that Dv is relegated to the rural. In fact there may be less incidents in the villages where life is only another name for suffering on the survival level. i guess there the families have to look to each other for their basic needs that perhaps violence may not be the order of the day.. its time and energy consuming.. both being in short supply.

    I have personally known women who by all outward appearances seem a fit example of a charmed existence, but are fighting with their destiny when it comes to marital accord. This coming out in the open is a must.

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 20, 2007 @ 2:07 pm | Reply

  11. Without taking away even an ounce from the fact that domestic violence (no matter whether done by the Butler in the Study or the Doodhwala Bhaiya from Allahabad in the kitchen or the Maid in the Pantry) is wrong and a curse, allow me to state that I disagree on the relative percentage of the perps. Domestic violence or the post modern defination of domestic violence (which includes verbal as well as emotional abuse) is practiced equally by the genders. No one gender has a monopoly on this issue. I understand that some statistics is skewed by regional and economical factors but on an average both men and women are equally likely to be abusive.

    My point in stating the above is merely to draw attention to the fact that it would be impossible to find a “one size” solution that will fit all. This curse is very complex and subject to many dynamic factors. Solutions should be explored on a case by case basis and my attempt to apply broad strokes will be ineffective.

    For the purpose of full disclosure I would like to further add that I do have a leaning towards a very gender neutral perspective on universal issues.

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 20, 2007 @ 7:40 pm | Reply

  12. Manoj, its not just reportings one goes by. almost all my friends are married and not one ahs got a tale to tell which makes me feel i want to take the plunge. I am not saying they are being abused or anything but its just that either it is that in laws are interfering, or the guy is neglecting her or he is flirting with other women. So these chicks are happy with whatever is dished out to them. if he books tics for fame they are overjoyed, and if he remembers their anniversary and buys a gift all sins are maafofied. its not as if they are deliriously happy.. I dont see any ‘madly in love’ even after a few months of marriage. Most even complain of snoring husbands one minute after you know what.. puhleeaasee..who wants that!

    Comment by Neha — June 20, 2007 @ 11:06 pm | Reply

  13. Neha

    Allow me to say that what is happening to your girl friend is an abuse. If even after “that” she is not all calmed down and fast asleep with a smile on her face, then the husband is doing something that falls in a category of gross negligence (an abuse as per the post modern defination).

    Now unless the husband is willing to sit through “How to Calm Down Women and Put Them to Sleep With a Smile on Their Faces” classes at the University of Shaan Khan, she has valid ground to press charges.

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 21, 2007 @ 1:28 am | Reply

  14. Till you are not safely ensconced in holy matrimony and your wife does not personally validate your.. er… tall claims on Sachiniti Shaan I’m afraid will have to look askance at the above comment. Why wife and why not partner? Well presuming partners by virtue of their tentative comings and goings, may not be privy to details of the ‘snoring variety’! 🙂

    I am also now beginning to understand with a fair amount of clarity why the handle name ‘Shaan’! Pomposity is never out of fashion. Ask Reena Lamba! Dont recognise? Well.. ‘Mallika’ Sherawat for the uninitiated..she deems herself quite a queen.

    Any idea why your comments go into moderation? No censorship by me. I guess the guys at WordPress felt as well that veracity was suspect. Nyways, I have since informed them to let shaans comments come through.. He may be wholly self involved but is not a bad sort and certainly means no harm..What is a hyberbolic assertion once-in-a-way got to do with personality traits ha! N’est pas ?

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 7:42 am | Reply

  15. As for #11 Shaan, this was an attempt to analyse on a case by case basis, only the phenomenon is too widespread to limit to just a case therefore addressed on a wider scale.

    The issue of violence in marriage I agree has a wider scope..too many layers, seen and unseen, too many factors directly and indirectly related. Nonetheless, the issue can be perceived without rose colored spectacles, now that the honeymoon is over. Marriage sure has lost its sheen for most!!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 7:52 am | Reply

  16. Neha,

    ur comment #12, by that logic where will we be ever truly and fully satisfied.. with our parents??? end of the day we realise they are also simple humans with all the whims , insecurities, personality disorders and what all. still we love them . dont we ??? are the parents satisfied with their kids . i can show u any number of parents who are fed up with thier kids ( literal kids and grown ups) .Still how many of the aprents foresake their kids in India ??? So why do these 2 relations survice. How do we tolerate our friends ??? our colleagues .. because there is no choice.
    then why a seperate gold standard for the husbands ….. as long they are moderately matured , i think marriage can survive rather be happily survive.Only thing one should have the guts to change , guts to love and guts to continue together.

    Comment by Manoj — June 21, 2007 @ 8:49 am | Reply

  17. Well said Manoj..

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 9:00 am | Reply

  18. Manoj, I think you have not read my comment seriously. If u think that complaints like neglect, flirting with other women or in law harassment is chalta hai or can be excused under personality disorders then u are wrong. If our friends behave like this ofcourse we will be annoyed atleast I will be. I may not want to keep my friendship going. The reason why a woman gets married is for support and affection. If both these only she can not get then what is the use of marriage. I am not saying that at the drop of a hat the marriage should break or that there should be no tolerance and adjustment. I think that if husbands do not keep the interests of the wife in mind over her troubles then a wife is going to feel unhappy, which is what is happening all around.

    If a law like Divorce is there then it is meant to be used. Why do men always want that their wives accept all thier faults with a grin on their face while the wife is nit picked? First her in laws will criticise her, then they will complain to the husband then he will add on his own list. be honest are you accepting of your wifes faults? Dont you have a ‘gold standard’ for your wife?

    Just because we cannot leave our parents is that why we love them?And I dont think a happy marriage is one which people stay together becoz they have no choice!!!! They should live together because they have a choice.

    Shaan,

    Ok I held my tummy and laughed. Do you intend having practical demonstration classes in India?

    Comment by Neha — June 21, 2007 @ 1:44 pm | Reply

  19. Well said Neha!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 2:05 pm | Reply

  20. Yeh kya ho rah hai ?? Well said to both Manoj n me ??!!

    Comment by Neha — June 21, 2007 @ 2:38 pm | Reply

  21. Hmmm. Neha methinks I will have to abandon this T.V. viewing for a while ..My tender, impressionable mind is getting overly influenced by the Presidential elections ping pong battle goings on. Much like our erstwhile Pm and others, keeping all parties happy is kinda catching on severely..

    The fact remains both had valid points, pointedly expressed

    Well said!!

    oops!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 2:48 pm | Reply

  22. kyaaa zamaaana aagaya…

    a guy vociferously defending the marriage and a gal (neha) against it ….

    neha … yeh comment dil pe mat le..;)

    Comment by Manoj — June 21, 2007 @ 2:50 pm | Reply

  23. Hey K..please dalbadloo mat bano!! You too brutus!!

    Manoj, I am not against marriage. its just that the chameleon ways of men folk scare me. Dil pe nahin liya re

    Comment by Neha — June 21, 2007 @ 3:38 pm | Reply

  24. Neha

    Sorry we do not have overseas campuses. Classes held only in NYC.

    Kav

    You could attend the classes as a journalist/observer.

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 21, 2007 @ 5:23 pm | Reply

  25. Thhhussshhhh.. (as in ..one tight slap)!! Thanks but No Thanks!! Feed Neha in on the details if she visits NYC..Like I said, only validation of the wifey category would do…Till such time…. dream on!!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 5:34 pm | Reply

  26. Hey K yout tv viewing has really gone up 🙂 now this ‘one tight slap’ is from Channel V na? I looooove those mini skits.

    Shaan dear.. your loss buddy! dont get me wrong but my boyfriend badly needed those classes and so does half the country :)I have no plans of visiting NY immediately. But then… the offer is open forever no? or is there a time frame? Knowledge must be distributed Shaan…for free!

    Comment by Neha — June 21, 2007 @ 6:23 pm | Reply

  27. On a serious note, a lot of these gender related problems in quite a few societies is merely because people have forgotten how to connect, or learn to know each other. Everyone thinks that he/she is doing the smart thing when they hold on to some dilapidated stereotypical view about others. Most of these views are based on myths and have nothing to do with reality.

    Perhaps opening a University of Shaan Khan (regardless of what Kav says) is not a bad idea. I want Desi men to know that Jen Garner & Jolie can look at them too with moist longing eyes. I want them to understand that it has nothing to do with my 6’2″ height or my 190 lbs athletic frame or my devilishly handsome good looks or my light hazel colored eyes. It has nothing to do with my high IQ either. It is only a by product of my clean heart and pure compassion and yes the ability to bull shit at all times and in all places (24×7).

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 21, 2007 @ 7:58 pm | Reply

  28. …And the honesty to candidly admit that you resort to bullshitting at all times and in all places..mostly Sachiniti.

    Devil!!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 8:08 pm | Reply

  29. Kav

    You say Tomayto I say Tomahto. You say conversation/yak/communicate, I say BS.

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 21, 2007 @ 8:19 pm | Reply

  30. I say.. Change your lexicon Shaan! ..in Rajnikantham style!!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 21, 2007 @ 8:23 pm | Reply

  31. LOL..I say ‘Saary bass but there is only one Bass Rajnikantha’.

    Comment by Neha — June 22, 2007 @ 11:02 am | Reply

  32. I think just like Benny Hill or Ivy League Humor, Rajnikanth is an acquired taste. I like the Harvard/Yale style humor, I am very comfortable with that, but I do not get Rajnikanth. Maybe after some more exposure it might sink in, but so far the way he talks and walks and speaks, give me the creeps. Between Big B and Rajnikanth, I will pick Big B anytime (inspite of my consistent position on Big B).

    Comment by Shaan Khan — June 25, 2007 @ 12:28 am | Reply

  33. Agree with you on this one Shaan.. I cannot for the life of me understand what the ho hum is all about! Btw ‘I say’ are the two words most of his dialogues are rumored to begin with..which explains the reference.
    I’d much quicker acquire a taste for cod liver oil!

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — June 25, 2007 @ 12:42 am | Reply

  34. listen guys, y shud da women suffer,eh? da thing is patience is a virtue is jus a saying… if u think da marriage wont work do urself and ur partner a favour get a DIVORCE.

    Comment by samera — June 26, 2007 @ 2:28 am | Reply

  35. lol..samera..angry at someone?

    Comment by kaveetaakaul — July 3, 2007 @ 3:12 pm | Reply

  36. I’m the biggest fan of shweta and i can’t see her with that beast. I think that they should get divorsed…. sooooooon
    that would be good for her and happiness for her fans tooo………………

    shweta ji WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH and we are with you………….

    Comment by karan — September 7, 2007 @ 10:03 am | Reply

  37. Shweta was in Kathmandu shooting for Nepali and Bhojpuri film “Trinetra” and i was glad to meet her. being nepali and she the queen of Indian soap operas and seeing many crazy of her in Nepal, i had also fallen in love with her as child. i admire her talents very much and she was great. i just couldn’t lift my eyes from her during shoot in Kathmandu and it was great time watching this legend.
    Shweta your ex husband will know later what he lost! only lucky people will get wife like you. hope i get one like you. god bless you.

    Sammy

    Comment by Samyam Wagle — January 26, 2008 @ 10:22 pm | Reply

  38. HELLO GUYS…
    Shweta ur ex-husband is a looser…
    he lost such a b’ful wife…nd above all such a nice human being as his companion…
    he is a looser no matter what…
    u did the right thing by leaving nd divorcing him…
    a person like him desrves this…
    u r such a cutie=pie…a real GEM….u nd Aishwarya Bachchan r the most b’ful persons in dis universe…a real rockstar u r….a great actor nd human being….wish all the woman in the world can be as strong as ur….
    raja is a foolish person….he would realize wat he lost ……
    u take care….nd pls dont ever leave television…..
    love u angel…buh-bye

    Comment by Ayesha — June 6, 2008 @ 12:16 pm | Reply

  39. I LOVE SHWETA AND I HATE HIS HUSBAND.

    Comment by AISHA — June 12, 2008 @ 2:09 pm | Reply

  40. HER HUSBAND IS BLOODY

    Comment by AISHA — June 12, 2008 @ 2:13 pm | Reply

  41. im very very big fan once you come in my dream alsoyou r looking gorgeous

    Comment by nirlep — June 17, 2008 @ 9:54 pm | Reply

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  43. Raja is a snob. Shweta is a confident and hard working lady. Watch Raja on Bigg Boss and you will understand why I call him a snob. He is wild and can be dangerous. Good they are divorced. Shweta does not deserve a husband like Raja.

    Comment by Rani — August 25, 2008 @ 1:33 pm | Reply

  44. Shweta you are ex husband will feel later what he had lost! one lucky person will get wife like you. it may be Ialso be a boy than I will marry you.

    Comment by Swati Rohilla — October 15, 2008 @ 10:58 am | Reply

  45. Hi Kaveetaa. A quick introduction. I am Sunaina working at Breakthrough, Delhi. This post is most interestingly written &very sensitively deals with the most pertinent issue of domestic violence And you have managed to put the issue in focus quite well//What comes through is the concern/sensitivity you have exhibited for this issue.// Well, I work on a youth oriented site called http://www.bellbajao.org and would love for you to blog on it. We have a category called “In The News” which houses topical blogs on Domestic Violence in particular and Violence against women in general, making sure that news and headlines around the issue remain in the limelight.

    Please visit the site and do write back to me at sunaina.bhakhri@gmail.com about your thoughts on the campaign.And if you’re interested, do blog on the site as well. And if you’re a regular blogger, we’d be happy to put you on our blogroll and crosslink your blog page on our site.

    Thanks and hoping to hear from you,
    Sunaina Bhakhri

    Comment by Sunaina — May 14, 2009 @ 11:43 am | Reply

  46. shweta you are so lucky mera manna hai raja or aapki jodi no.1 hai or main hi kya every people yahi sochta hoga haina

    Comment by abhinav — August 13, 2009 @ 2:17 pm | Reply

  47. if she has any problem with her husband i am ready to accept her………i am a bank manager …….i have enough to feed her nicely

    Comment by karan — February 10, 2010 @ 1:35 am | Reply

  48. i wonder what she saw in him…
    SHE IS SOO NICE…
    perfect example for qoute “love is blind”

    Comment by prajna — December 19, 2010 @ 12:06 am | Reply

  49. I thnik Raja is out of this world…wife such as Shweta ….my God you will never get…she is beautiful, caring, loving and everything a guy seeks in every girl…she’s got……

    I would love to have a wife has Shewta…

    You do wat right for you and for you only…

    Comment by nicholas — January 28, 2011 @ 2:25 am | Reply

  50. Amazing woman she is….:) very strong lady with full of confident in herself….

    Comment by Arunima — June 7, 2012 @ 1:41 am | Reply


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