A still from ‘Mela’ with Aamir and Faisal Khan .. Unfortunately life turned out to be less of a ‘mela’ ..more of a ‘melee’!
Update 2nd Nov 07: As expected Aamirs family consisting of his wife Kiran rao and 21 other family members speak out in vehement aggression against Tahir Hussain and Faisal Khan..see update at bottom of post.
Piqued by the rather insouciant reportage of events that have engulfed the two brothers, Aamir Khan and Faisal Khan, one felt the need to elucidate lucidly on the tittle tattle that has been persistently chasing them this past week. Although news had been alarming yet one desisted from writing on the subject out of sheer sense of fairness and also to avoid further encumbrance towards normalisation/ solution to the rather tragic turn of events.
However Zeitgeist and for the purpose of placing events in perspective so as not to obdurate conclusions based on nescience, an attempt is being made to clarify the sequential stream of events.
Faisal Khan, Aamirs kid brother living in the shadow of the dizzy heights of success achieved by Aamir, was reported missing by his mother Zeenat and sister Nikhat Khan. Faisal was found in Lonavala, at a farm he allegedly has bought for the purpose of goat rearing. Wondering what the brouhaha is about? All of this seems pretty innocuous doesnt it? Oftentimes things are never what they appear to be.
Faisal Khan , as averred by his family, is suffering from schizophrenia and was undergoing medical treatment at their residence. Faisal and his lawyers reacted to this as a noisome allegation and insist that he is being framed.
He was produced in Court a few days later with his lawyer who responded thus:
Faisal’s advocate S A Wasid told TOI, “He had sent a letter to the Khar police on October 12 stating that he is leaving his house as he wants to be on his own. The family then filed a missing person complaint case on October 13 with the same police station.” Wasid added, “Faisal’s father, who was asked to be in court, refused to attend it alleging that if he does so his financiers will withdraw from helping him for his next film.
Incidentally Faisal and Aamirs father Tahir Hussain has re married and is now living separately with his second wife. Normalcy is a rarity in that household…unfortunately.
However it is pertinent to point out here that paranoid schizophrenia is a condition that is treatable and is NOT akin to being ‘mad’ or ‘unstable’ as scream the headlines of Msm stories.
..is a psychiatric diagnosis that describes a mental illness characterized by impairments in the perception or expression of reality, most commonly manifesting as auditory hallucinations, paranoid or bizarre delusions or disorganized speech and thinking in the context of significant social or occupational dysfunction.
Contd.. Living in an urban environment has been consistently found to be a risk factor for schizophrenia. Social disadvantage has been found to be a risk factor, including poverty and migration related to social adversity, racial discrimination, family dysfunction, unemployment or poor housing conditions. Childhood experiences of abuse or trauma have also been implicated as risk factors for a diagnosis of schizophrenia later in life. Parenting is not held responsible for schizophrenia but unsupportive dysfunctional relationships may contribute to an increased risk.
Tell tale I would think ..as also a warning.
Faisal insists that his brother Aamir has forcibly kept him captive and had been ingesting him with medication to ‘make him mad’ which is typical remark of a schizophrenic patient. Remember Parveen Babi and her hallucinations and fears ? ‘Woh Lamhe’ was based on her life and so is a ‘ A Beautiful Mind’ the story of Nobel Prize winner Nash.
The rather pugnacious stand by Tahir Hussain has taken one by surprise.
In the rather public and increasingly ugly battle between his actor sons, Tahir Hussain on Friday sided with Faisal Khan and blamed Aamir and his wife, Kiran, for creating a rift in the family.
Talking exclusively to Mumbai Mirror, Tahir supported Faisal’s charge that Aamir has been force feeding him medicines for paranoid schizophrenia when he has no such medical condition. Tahir also declared that Faisal would now stay with him and not with Aamir.
A court in Bandra will decide on Faisal’s custody on Friday. The case is likely to be heard at 9.30 am. Aamir, who maintains Faisal needs medication for paranoid schizophrenia, has also sought his custody.
Breakdown of the family structure, self above all else, lax moral values, un propitious emotional environment, seems to be the rule more than the exception in our present environs. This is not meant to convey that paranoid schizophrenia is a necessary fallout, but certainly in cases where the symptoms of this ill fated disease are present, conditions enumerated above which deny comity will be strongly observed.
Privacy in the matter would have been ideal for the family already burdened with tragedy and stress. However ..
Stardom is an albatross rarely shakable.
One has to be a sardonic raconteur to revel in this tale. I have met Faisal on a few occasions. He was charming, lively with a bright, contagious smile. We are neighbors., so to speak.. live in the same locality. I could never have even remotely, imagined this sudden reversal of circumstances. It saddens, even if it is a vicariously experienced emotion.
Its uncanny really. On 14th October I had added on my vodpod alongside, the song from ‘jo jeeta wahi sikandar’ ..’rooth ke humse kabhi jab chale jaoge tum’ a hauntingly soulful composition which was filmed on the love between two brothers featuring Aamir Khan. On 17th October, news first streaked in of Faisals disappearance. The emotion in the song was so palpable..or is it incongruous..an illusion?
“What fates impose, that men must needs abide; It boots not to resist both wind and tide.”
Update 31st Oct07 : Its unfortunate that life has placed a son and father in such an opposing stance that both are now exposing private details which are rather embarassing. Aamir Khan for the first time speaks out against his father via the response in his affidavit:
• To my understanding my father is on the verge of becoming insolvent. He is incapable of looking after Faisal financially or emotionally.
• Throughout my brother’s treatment, my father has not made any effort to even meet the doctors treating Faisal.
• If my father is saying that Faisal is of ‘sound mind’ then where is the question of him getting my brother’s custody.
Update 3.14 p.m: Doctors have confirmed through their medical reports that Faisal Khan indeed is suffering from Paranoid Schizophrenia and in need of medical attention. Aamirs stand has been vindicated. Unfortunately Tahir Hussain has declared on national television that ‘ Aamir mera nalayak beta hai…woh mujhe baap nahin maanta main bhi usse beta nahin maanta”.. A family feud so ugly that is being talked about at every ‘nukkad’ now.
Reminded of those unforgettable lines
“kabhi kisiko muqammal jahaan nahin milta
kahin zameen toh kahin aasman nahin milta”
Update 5.00p.m: The court has allowed the application of Faisal Khan to be heard and his averments be taken into consideration. A rather surprising development keeping in mind Faisals mental state. Faisal categorically refused to stay with Aamir Khan or his mother. He accused aamir of mistreating him, keeping him prisoner and forcing him to take medications.
Perhaps considering that Faisal condition would worsen if the situation was aggravated and he was compelled to live with Aamir, the court decided to temporarily for a month hand over custody of Faisal to his father Tahir Hussain.
Tahir Hussain and his second wife made some rather obtuse statements on camera. They both accused Aamir of being mentally unstable, of torturing Faisal and also implying that Aamir sabotaged Faisals career for fear of being overshadowed by Faisals talent. Now that is insane.
To me the courts decision is wisened and mature. For one, faisal has to report to J.J.Hospital every 14 days since his illness has been proven. Second it is not easy to look after a patient and soon a financially challenged Tahir Hussain will begin to feel the pinch.Thirdly in all probability Faisal will soon begin distrusting Tahir and his adopted siblings as well as is wont to occur in this ailment.
Aamirs quiet dignity and silence has spoken out loud and clear. His willingness and sincerity in looking after his brother is more than evident.
Sadly what is also evident is the fact that a weak patriarch almost always leads the family to ruination. Tahirs second marriage, Aamirs second marriage, Aamirs sister Nikhats third marriage and a rather pitiable figure of Zeenat Aamirs mother who has lost her husband and son with one stroke of fate speaks of a family un moored and struggling against the storms of life.
It not fair to put blame on a single individual but what comes to mind is the tragedy that what should have been a family decision over the well being of a sick son was thrown into the hands of an impersonal judge. This rather pitiful turn of events did not deter Tahir Hussain from mouthing undesirable/malicious/pungent statements against his son Aamir. His stubborn denial of Faisals condition speaks of an unbalanced and immature elder. Sad!
Update 2nd Nov’07 : When a family member has contiguously performed his duies responsibly and is the rewarded with accusations and ridicule as was the case , an outburst was imminent. The entire family of Aamir has shown solidarity with him and given a public statement.
This was expected though not desirable. The average citizen had imbibed the core essence of this issue. By now prolonging the issue via clarifying his stand the mud slinging continues. Now aamir has completely washed his hands off Faisal Khan and in retribution expects that his father Tahir Hussain shoulders responsibility for Faisal which will in the long run be detrimental to Faisals health is what one envisages.
Aamir ought to have continued to show restraint and maturity that he had so far exemplified. But family pressure, maybe his wife Kiran probably inciting a reactionary stance has led to this new development. Not needed in my view. It negates, neutralises all that aamir has done so far. Why is it important to keep elucidating on your position? After all ” Yeh duniya agar mill bhi jaaye to kya hai”
With Aamir , his mother and sisters constrained to keep their well intentioned concern to themselves, Faisal Khan imo stands to lose the most.
Update 14th Nov : As predicted Faisal Khan has moved out of his father Tahir Hussains residence as well, where he had been ordered to stay for a month. But within a couple of weeks he is out of there.He is now living alone in Chembur. The symptoms are appearing with classic regularity. Only wish his father had been prudent enough to have gaged the enormity of Faisals sickness.
Update 16th December: The inevitable, as had been predicted on Sachiniti has occurred. Tahir Hussain has requested the court to give custody of Faisal khan to Aamir Khan since he is unable to look after him.
Aamir must be feeling extremely vindicated today. After all no stone was left unturned by tahir hussain to demolish his image and his intentions. Notwithstanding, I wonder how much of glee can one experience if our parents are proven wrong. Imo.. none at all. they are your roots, your anchor. How does it benefit ones psyche to know that your parents or father in this case has been a bumbling fool.. shooting his mouth off and failing to realise the implications of faisals predicament.
Why Faisal was allowed to live independently by his father during his custody in far away chembur or some such vague suburb , is indicative of the fact that from the very first day of custody, Tahir Hussain had lost the battle..if ever there was one. The whole idea was to keep constant vigil on Faisal. there is great danger from one who thinks he is perfectly sane and the world is out to persecute him.
The judge played his cards right by initially handing over custody to tahir hussain. had he complied with aamirs request there would have been no way to prove the recklessness of the decision that Tahir Hussain was so convinced about.
The hearing is set for tomorrow. Tahir Hussain has had to eat humble pie. Aamir and his mother will get custody of faisal and hopefully this will be a sane end to this rather insane drama! Amen!!
Update 19th Dec: Faisals present accomodation and his daily routine..A report
The symptoms get stronger. A perfect neighbour, the report says ..not necessarily evidence for a perfect mind!
Update 17th Feb 08: Court grants independence to Faisal Khan which translates to Aamir loses battle for Faisals custody.
Bollywood actor Aamir Khan on Saturday lost the legal battle for custody of his mentally-ill brother Faisal Khan as a local court held that Faisal need not be in anybody’s custody and can live anywhere he wants. But he requires regular medication, the Bandra metropolitan magistrate’s court held. Faisal, a one-time actor himself, is suffering from schizo-affected psychosis, according to the government-run J J Hospital’s report.
The court has decreed that Faisal be allowed to live on his own but medication is mandatory. This is a rather weird take on the issue. The heart of the matter was faisals reluctance to intake of medication which kept him stable. that is the reason the hue and cry raised by his near and dear. It is a known fact that patients often refuse to undergo medical treatment which then worsens their condition. How is it then advisable to let him be on his own when he has been declared a ‘schizophrenic patient’ simulataneously? Quite a paradox and shocking must say!