Update: Have changed the header from ‘Om Puris wife Exposes embarassing truths in biography’ to the present one, for reasons which will be clear on reading through.The past four years of my life as a blogger whence I chose to write on topics after a careful and meticulous pre ponderance so as not to ‘take sides’ undeservedly, provided no cause for regrets. This is the first episode where I confess that I granted too much credibility to Om Puri and allowed my heart to bleed for his alleged predicament. What a sucker I was!!.
Link to the article that made me want to take up cudgels for him, empathise with the sense of victimisation he had (I thought) expressed so honestly,heart breakingly, so here I was holding my ground for Om Puri the old and greying thespian who , as quoted by him, was now a butt of cheap gossip,when it was actually me being taken for a royal ride with my gullibility exposing itself wholly despite the fact that my blogger friends repeatedly warned me that it was merely a premeditated publicity gimmick.
Link to the article by the same Om Puri, just a day later. unabashedly in complete reversal of his original wail, neither denying nor affirming whether the portions of his affairs with his maids was included with his permission and cognisance. Instead he tangentially takes of on the hackneyed ‘media abuse’ etc, By now, as you must have guessed I was completely aghast, taken aback, shaken and finally bored. What a waste of emotion for a couple who knew exactly what they were doing and why…like my journalist friend Mr. Mohan Siroya mentioned in the comments section.
Link to a similar disgruntlement expressed by the journalist Subhash Jha who claims he had been used too.
This has been a learning experience for me. Media blowing up stories was a fact I was well versed with but to think that respected actors of the Om Puri variety would sensationalise their sordid sexual life to publicise what may have otherwise been a rather staid biography, is unimaginable. Shobhaa De was right, and so were a million others who saw through it all. I didnt and am disenchanted, disillusioned,disgruntled and somewhere broken. His biography is one book I shall NEVER read!
Original article follows… At the risk of reiteration..Gosh what a sucker I was!!.
Fame and peace can never be bedfellows. You invite fame into your life and tranquility bids you a hasty farewell.Fame the fugacious guest, surreptitiously hides behind it infamy, which monster like grows with each breath of adulation , waiting to expose its gargantuan self at the appropriate time. The latest victim is Om Puri the thespian who has achieved accolades beyond Indian shores. The shocking part is that in this case his wife turned out to be Brutus.
In a biography penned by Nandita Puri, the sexual life of Om Puri has been dealt with in great detail much to the embarrassment and chagrin of the actor, who reveals that he had no knowledge of the manuscript prior to its publication.
Om’s main reason for being upset is Nandita’s revelation that he had sex with his maid Shanti at the age of 14. She has also exposed Om’s longstanding liaison with a woman named Laxmi with whom Om was sexually and emotionally involved.
The write-up goes on to reveal that Laxmi was a maid as well. ( What is with men and their maids?? One would have thought that the Shiney Ahuja escapade was a notorious aberration. But it seems I am pathetically uninformed with the ways of the world, living in an insulated bubble far removed from reality. Ahh ..that pains..really!! Its almost ubiquitous in one form or another. Ever heard of women involved in such activities with their servants?! Not me.. or am I being naive again)
The point of this post however is not to delve into the intricacies of Mr Puris sexual life but the malapropos exploitation by a wife of truths privy to her. Is Marriage and loyalty extant? Its unimaginable that a wife, yet in marriage would think of including such personal and hugely embarrassing details in the biography of her husband ostensibly with the purpose of extolling his virtues.
Nandita Kya sochi..sardar bahut khush hoga? Sabaashi dega? Frivolity aside..just what was she thinking? Is this a clear indication that the marriage is over? Did she have to inform him and the world via the publishers? Just how does she plan to tackle the questions posed by her child/children? Honestly this decision-making process undertaken by Ms Nandita Puri leaves me embarrassed at being a wife.
Enmity even after a bitter battle of divorce and custody shouldnt result in such a demeaning end to what must have been a relationship with ‘moments’. If the idea was to countervail malicious intent and yet expose such truths then she has without a shadow of doubt failed miserably. If Om Puri comes across as a man with weaknesses and foibles then Nandita is equally in the dock for being a woman sans integrity and steadfastness.To be dubbed perfidious,treacherous,faithless and cruelly so, is imho no less disparaging than an inappropriate sexual liaison.
Will their marriage survive this mammoth scarring? Or more pertinent is the query, was there a marriage worth the reckoning in the first place? If marriage is just being flatmates, which is the case of most today, then it may. But purposeless and artificially so.
The more I ponder on this issue the more does perplexity increase. Was she plain stupid, irresponsible? Or neurotic, a ‘woman scorned’ and reeking vengeance for undisclosed reasons? Or simply a clever saleswoman hell-bent on selling copies of her book even if it meant mortgaging her relationship ? Will we ever know? But if actions speak louder than words the one can safely conclude that this act by a wife is one of the most shameful in the history of Bollywood .